look what love can do
A couple of weeks ago I came across a post by a very gifted author, Tracy Simmons, from her blog The Best Parts. In "Look What Love Can Do," she takes an honest and moving look at God's love for us his human children, a love we often don't know how to accept or trust, let alone pass on to others. This dilemma is seen through the analogy of Tracy's love for two dogs with severe behavioral problems, the latest of many she and her husband have adopted. She writes of Arthur in particular (see picture):
He had been in the shelter for five months, the product of a divorce where neither party could handle him alone. He had such bad separation anxiety that the longest we could leave him alone for was 10 seconds. ... Anything longer than that and he'd totally freak out. I will not bore you with the details of how we slowly built up his tolerance to being left alone with Ruby (Tracy's other dog) for short intervals of time, but it took a lot of patience, love, and effort just to get him to the point where he could be left alone for an hour without utterly destroying the house. ... I'm happy to say that now Arthur is also a wonderful part of our household. He has no idea he is a giant-sized dog and he loves to sit on our laps or lie on the bed and get belly rubs. After all these years we can finally leave Arthur home for a full day. He has learned, at last, that we will always return. Arthur is finally secure in our love. ... I've been thinking lately how much I am like Ruby and Arthur. I have needed God's love, day after day, year after year, to keep shining down on me and in me, to slowly convince and transform my heart until trust is deeply rooted there. Dogs are wired for community. (People who have one dog and then leave him alone all day for the entire work week have no idea of what they are asking of that dog. But I digress.) They are pack animals who need others around them. We humans are created for community as well. It seems to take me a long time with some people before I really receive the love they give. It may always be there, but my heart has been betrayed a few times in the past and so now I am bit slower to receive that love. But as the time is invested, my heart learns to trust. And as I receive the love from God, really take it into the depths of my being, and receive the love from people (my husband is unbelievable in this area), it slowly transforms me into being able to love more fully, more completely, more like God.
(picture and post courtesy and copyright Tracy Simmons)



August 4, 2008
Reader Comments (5)
I enjoyed Tracy's post and have often mused at God's love for me through the eyes of one of my animals. How they adore me, and that they are gifts from Him. And if my dogs (and cat and rat) can look at me with all that love in their eyes, then think of all the love God looks at me with. Oh, if I could only stay as focused on God as my animals do on me.
I need to look at the other side of the coin, though, to the dog left home all week while I went to work. This was my last dog's plight. Her name was Karma, and she was the love of my life. At that time I did not have a job where I could take her with me, so she would sit home alone 40 to 50 hours a week waiting for me to come home. But I dare say, she was a very happy and contented dog. When I was not working and the weather permitted, she went EVERYWHERE else with me. We vacationed together, we hiked together, we sat together, she was my best friend. I'm glad that I did not decide not to adopt because I had to work to provide a living for the two of us. I would have missed one of the best relationships of my life. And when she got cancer, I was able to pay the vet bills because of my job.
I work in a shelter now and my dogs get to go to work with me. They truly have the life of Riley. But I frequently hear people say that they can't take a dog home because they have to work, or they live in an apartment. Is it better that Fido sit in an over crowded shelter, waiting to find a perfect home? Or can sacrifices be made.
I don't think it's about the job or the size of the house, but about the love and dedication you are willing to give a new animal. Tracy and her husband brought Arthur home as a new family member and were willing to do what it took to make it work with him. Arthur knows he is loved. And Karma knew she was loved.
MeLissa, you bring up a VERY good point! I think so much depends on the individual dog and also how the people treat the dog the rest of the week. I know people who leave their dog alone all week long at work and then run around all weekend as well, leaving Fido at home seven days a week except for when the people are home sleeping. Yes, it's still better than having the dog in a shelter, I totally agree, but I want to continue to challenge people who adopt dogs to take great care of them as well. I've found that two dogs are really not any more work than one dog, and for some dogs that extra company during the day makes all the difference between misery and joy while their human friend is at work. Some dogs do great alone all week long, but many are depressed and miserable. I feel so sad whenever I see that. In addition, many behavior problems spring forth from being left alone for so many hours, especially among the working dog breeds. Thankfully, there are now "doggie daycares" springing up all over the place looking to meet this need in our dog friends! Also, some dogs find the company of a friendly cat just as good company as another dog, presenting another option to pet "owners."
I'm glad you brought up the point that you did, because I would much rather have a dog taken home from a shelter even if s/he is going to be left alone all week long.
Hey Ben, just for clarity I wanted to let you know that our boy Arthur bears a much greater physical resemblance to me, grey muzzle and floppy lips as he snores, than my wife. :>} He does, however, bear more resemblance to Tracy in the heart areas of love, mercy, forgiveness, and grace; far more than I am capable of. What more can I say? Cursed with my looks and blessed with Tracy's heart!! Blessings,
Rich
Thanks, Rich, sounds like you've got quite the find in Tracy, and I can at least attest to her writing ability and the heart which shows through that. I was really grateful to come across her post, and referencing it here has been a great perspective and different voice to bring to the blog.
Thank you Ben, and yes, Tracy is the find of my life. A very unique and wonderful person, and an incredible wife. As Phoebe on the show "Friends" once said, She's my lobster! (You have to have watched the show to understand the meaning of the comment.) Blessings,
Rich